It is easy to judge others and many times we do it unconsciously. A great example is the person driving too fast and who may have cut you off. It is easy to just assume they are an aggressive driver who think wherever they need to be is more important than where you are going. I like to think they have somewhere they need to be, such as rushing to the hospital or something similar. It keeps my blood pressure down and changes what my potential reaction might be otherwise.
It is good to remember we all have faults and bad habits. And we don't want to be judged on the – hopefully - outlier moment when we act badly. Maybe thinking this way can help us change behaviors or bad habits. Focusing on yourself is much more productive than focusing on others.
Sometimes I try to make not judging others a game. What I mean is I make up a story on why they are how they are, why they are acting how they are, or why they just cut me off on the road. I am sure what I think is not close to being accurate, but it keeps me in check and sometimes makes me laugh to myself if I come up with something really good. Such a reaction is way better than thinking in a judgmental way or thinking negative thoughts about others.
Next time that car cuts you off, think about the emergency they could be dealing with. Also think what others think when you drive like that because you are in a hurry. Then try not to laugh as you think about how everything is relative to where you are sitting.
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About the Author: Neal Bookspan is a partner at the Phoenix, Arizona law firm of Jaburg Wilk. He assists clients with business issues, commercial litigation, workouts, and bankruptcy litigation. Neal can be reached at 602.248.1000.