Fitting in is Highly Overrated
Peer pressure starts when you are young and can impact you throughout your life if you let it. We all want to fit in and be in the “in” crowd, whether it is in high school or in our professional lives. You know what I am talking about.
Fitting in can get you places at times, but in the long run it usually means you are one of the pack and don’t “stand out.” Most leaders do not become leaders by being one of the crowd or a follower.
This doesn’t mean you can’t learn from spending time with the crowd, but if you let yourself get trapped in its orbit, that is how people will know you. It usually means something along the line of people thinking of you as one of a group and not individually.
So, what is the answer? Be you.
By being you, it may mean being part of the crowd. There is nothing wrong with that, and if you aspire to be a leader or stand out, you have to do more. Do you want to be part of the status quo fitting in, or do you want to excel? Knowing the answer to this question can help you with the goals and aspirations.
No matter your answer to that question, if you work on being the authentic you, you will have a better chance of happiness and success, whatever that means to you.
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About the author: Neal Bookspan is a partner at the Phoenix, Arizona law firm of Jaburg Wilk . He assists clients with business issues, commercial litigation, workouts and bankruptcy litigation. Neal can be reached at 602.248.1000.